It’s really hard for me to write about when things aren’t positive and cheery. I always want to give you ways to look for the good around you because I hope it helps you and it’s also a message for me. But we’ve all had “those days” right? You know the ones where you feel like nothing is going right or went like it was supposed to. It can be so frustrating.
For me it’s actually not been just a day but a few months! Not that every day has been challenging but let’s say there have been a few days in a row that I wondered – “What’s going on????” I’ve been through some tough times with my physical health, losses both personally and professionally, helping friends through some rough spots, making hard decisions and more. Times where I had everything planned out just right and life came along and said “Not today girl”.
After a bit of retrospect, I’ve learned that I handled these times better than I thought. I have a few things I like to do to help me when my frustration is a little on the high side. I have also noticed that I developed some new routines that have helped me deal with these, shall I say, “special times”.
So, when things seem to be getting out of hand for you, your day is not turning out like you expected or you just want to curl up with a good snack and do nothing but watch Netflix, here are a few tips that you can start now that will help you over the hump.
#1 Me Time!
Just a minute ago I mentioned Netflix and a snack. Well there are those times when you need that. Now maybe watching TV and eating aren’t your thing but you know what I mean. You need to take some time that is only for you. Yes, you may feel like you have to many things to do but tune them out the best you can and take some time for yourself. Maybe you need to get out of your environment to make this happen. I know that I can say I’m going to take a break only to look around my room or house to see everything screaming at me to “work”. That’s usually when I head to the beach or the river to get away from it all.
Yesterday I wrote about keeping a journal. Some of you might be saying “I don’t want to write about my feelings” but it really does help. Getting those thoughts out of your brain and onto paper is like releasing mounds of stress. Just give it a try. You never know – you might write to me and tell me how good it makes you feel.
Yes, I’ve mentioned the dreaded word for some: exercise. But I can honestly tell you from experience this does help. Even if it’s only 10 minutes of riding a bike, dancing to some music, taking a walk in nature – it helps you physically and mentally.
#4 Do Something For Someone Else!
This one to me is big. When I’m having a tough day, I try to find someone that I can call that I know needs a pick-me-up. Or I’ll work on a prayer shawl I’m making for someone. Or go fill some Blessing Boxes around town with food. Maybe even send a card through the good ole Postal Service to someone who needs some cheering up. There are so many things you can do for others that gets you out of your own space and start seeing things differently.
#5 Talk To Someone!
Sometimes it’s good to talk to someone. It can be a trusted family member or close friend. Other times it’s a professional therapist. Talking out your feelings and what you are going through might be the thing to get you through those tough days.
#6 Focus On What Went Right!
When everything feels like it’s crazy, take a few moments to think about what did go right that day, week or month. It may take a moment for you to shift your focus from the turmoil but take a couple of deep breaths and try to relax. As you do this, think about your day, trying to focus on the positives. Did you get to and from your destination safely? Was your morning coffee/tea just what you needed? Did someone tell you a funny joke that you can’t wait to share? Did you sing along to your favorite song? Is the polish on your nails still looking good? Look for the biggest things to the smallest. Once you start looking for the good, you’ll find it.
#7 Listen To Some Music!
This is one of my favorite things to do when I’m in a funk. I crank up the tunes, whether I’m in my car or working around the house. I LOVE music and have since I was a little girl. Music is a big part of my life and I have a playlist named “Happy”. I know I can play these tunes and it will lift my mood almost instantly.
I hope this list of things you can do when things are quite going your way will help you as much as they do for me. I’ll be honest and say that sometimes I do have a pity party but I don’t let it last long. The next time “One Of Those Days” creeps up on you, try one or more of the ideas above to help you get past those times.